I dream of India.
The colours, the tastes, the smells, the sounds…an escape from my day to day reality.
I have spent a lot of my life traveling but have left so many places uncovered. My need to blend in often leads me to Europe where I can get away with French and English and attempt to blend in.
But I am hungry for something more. For somewhere that will push me out of my comfort zone, expand my mind and spice to my life experience.
I am hungry for spicy curries, brightly coloured saris, tall temples and busy markets. I want to learn the foundations of yoga and meditation. I want to experience a culture drastically different from my own.
And so I’ve started to plot a trip to India. Possibly for October/November. A birthday gift to myself. Meanwhile I am digging, researching, and reaching out for the right opportunities to complete my trip.
Volunteering
I don’t want to walk into this naively. I have heard mixed stories about volunteering and how much good it really does. I have read that larger organizations charge huge sums, place volunteers in camps isolated from the local population, and that sometimes these short visits to ‘help’ can leave locals off worse than where they started. Meanwhile, it seems this isn’t always the case. Some organizations seem to have really positive experiences on both ends and I love the idea of having a way to connect with more locals and to provide any help I can. I am especially interested in some of the women empowerment programs and am researching what might be the best fit.
Yoga and Meditation
Over the years I have practiced yoga on and off, and recently have found a lot of strength in meditation. I have never been a fan of ‘bootcamp’ yoga or any form of yoga that takes away from the mental practice and want to ground myself in the basics. I would love to find an ashram where I can spend some time evolving my practice and getting closer to my spirituality. I can’t think of anywhere better to do this but the birthplace of yoga.
Traveling Solo
Since I plan to travel alone I am looking into all of the safety protocols I will have to consider. I want to do this smartly and safely. This means carefully plotting out my travels and living arrangements as well as preparing myself for culture shock and standing out like a sore blonde thumb. My friends have warned me that I will not deal well with the amount of poverty. I’m very sensitive so suffering. I will of course also get the necessary shots and learn to prepare myself to be careful to not get physically ill. My love of street food could mean trouble.
“There are some parts of the world that, once visited, get into your heart and won’t go. For me, India is such a place. When I first visited, I was stunned by the richness of the land, by its lush beauty and exotic architecture, by its ability to overload the senses with the pure, concentrated intensity of its colors, smells, tastes, and sounds. It was as if all my life I had been seeing the world in black and white and, when brought face-to-face with India, experienced everything re-rendered in brilliant technicolor.”
― Keith Bellows
Have you been to India? Do you have any advice for this novice?






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!!! here are my photos from my time in india: http://smg.beta.photobucket.com/user/joydivider21/library/India%202006
so. i would dye the hair brown..seriously! i’d also stay in a reputable hotel (not in a remote village). also double check that they have warm water, a lot of showers are cold water only! this made for some REALLY uncomfortable showers in the chilly darjeeling mornings for me…brrrr!
i went veggie for the month i was there and didn’t get sick once! the veg cuisine is insanely flavorful and i didn’t miss meat at all! buy your own toilet paper! the bathrooms aren’t european so get used to the squatty potty aka hole in the ground
bug spray! i got eaten alive, burn mosquito coils at night! do.not.try.to.pet.monkeys! they are aggressive so don’t smile at them either…the teeth baring thing gets them angry!
grilled street corn is yummy and safe! boiled eggs and cups of milky chai are the breakfasts of champs
i could go on..so if you have more questions let me know!
Great advice – thank you! Will likely go brunette. I am mostly eating veg these days and adore vegetarian Indian food so that will be fun! I adore the grilled corn in Little India here – with the spice and lime? Heaven. Will be bugging you with more questions and checking out your photos.
Let me know if you need help seeking out a volunteer organization (or trying to figure out which ones are actually doing sustainable and substantial work overseas). I may have some recommendations!
Thanks Jess, I would love your help with this!
I wish I had advice to give you about India! But I too dream of it. I really hope you’re able to make this dream a reality and look forward to following your journey along the way. Bisous.
Merci ma belle!
OOO India! I have not been to India (it’s on my list, though!) but the semester I spent in Nairobi gave me some experience with being a blonde in a highly chaotic and poverty-filled place. So, that much I can speak to! I second the recommendation to dye your hair- I dyed my hair brown before I went and it definitely gave me some peace of mind. Something to consider. Also, wearing sunglasses and a hat- sunglasses helped me avoid eye contact on the street that can sometimes result in an unwanted advance. In terms of street food, look for the busiest-looking stalls and for well-cooked food. Also, go for food that can be eaten with the hands, because utensils aren’t always washed in between customers. Good luck!
Thanks Anna, great advice! I remember a friend mentioning the sunglasses in India for eye contact. Something I have to watch out as I tend to have stare downs. I will look out for the busiest stalls, there is no way I’m not enjoying street grub!
Hi Gill,
I went to India (Mumbai) two summers ago. I went as a blond and was stared at and asked to have my picture taken, but I never got a feeling that it was anything sexual or making me feel uncomfortable–it was just curiosity.
It was the most culture shocked place I visited, and I’ve been to places in the ‘third world’ before.
The food was amazing–tried many different street foods and it was more delicious than I expected.
If you haven’t already, check out the book/documentary ‘Half the Sky’. You can find many excellent organizations that you can possibly volunteer with.
Good luck!
Hi Magda,
Great advice and good to know about the blonde locks. I will look into this book/doc immediately, thank you!
india is awe-inspiring!! bring tp with you everywhere as many bathrooms just stock a hose. wear close-toed shoes. get into a kitchen! one of my favourite experiences was learning to make chapatti with the cook of one of our hosts.
i dream of their papayas and mangos….
I would love to learn some Indian cooking while there!
Hi Gillian! I have not been to India but am inspired by your post. I look forward to reading and learning about what you’ve discovered in preparation for the trip.
Also I sense that adventurous spirited girl from the “Confessions” blog days is coming back. Don’t know how to say this but here it goes: your words here make me feel, “She is back!” They feel so true and real.
Well that makes me very happy to hear – I feel it too
Don’t dye your hair.
You will get attention no matter what you do. Don’t dye your hair! Cover it with a scarf if you feel shy. But honestly, it almost seems insulting in a way to dye it. Like people are incapable of handling it. It almost seems
And besides, India is really very welcoming and easy to travel as a solo woman. Just be modest and confident. No less safe than France. Or Colombia. Or even Toronto.
Leave lots of room in your schedule for serendipitous moments. Don’t over plan.
Wonderful advice. I will keep a head scarf for moments where I feel like being a little under wraps. x
ps. your blonde is too beautiful to dye… to try to go back to blonde from brunette is a painful process, and it will never look the same!
I know nothing about India and do not no anyone either. But if I come across anything I will pass it along!! I wish I could take a trip alone someone, Africa is a place I am dying to go! Hopefully overtime I can save up money for it.
You should go! That would be amazing.
I’ve never been. My daughter (12yrs old) has been dreaming of going for so long, I am sure we will make it there someday. I have a friend travelling solo there right now. I thought you might like to see the type of updates we get on FB from her below. I hope she forgives me for sharing her updates
But I think she would appreciate I am sharing in the spirit of knowledge (as opposed to exploiting her privacy).
After experiencing the energy at The Haven I was curious to receive darshan but unfortunately I won’t get that opportunity this time.
Ashram schedule so far this morning:
450-6am Archana (chanting of the 1000 names of the Divine Mother)
630-730am – Meditation on the beach & discussion of the Bhagavad Gita
8am – we had a western breakfast of lots of butter with freshly baked cinnamon raisin bread, egg and cheese sandwich with coffee and green tea
10am – finalized my ticket to Nepal!!!
Evening plans:
Seva at some point – “Selfless service”
Meditation on the beach and discussion of spirituality
Bhajans – devotional songs
8pm – dinner
Amma is not here to give darshan
AND THE POST BEFORE THAT:
Left Bangalore at 530pm yesterday and arrived in Kollam. Kerala on the train at 830am, the train was only an hour delayed. Unfortunately, the train was full of bedbugs, worse than Hotel Pushpak in Aurangabad, worse than that guesthouse in Ethiopia. Did a canoe tour of the backwaters. Our boatman took us off the main waterway to the narrow waters snaking by people’s homes. It is hard to describe the sleepy, tropical beauty of it. Comorants, kingfishers, jasmine, hibiscus, papaya and pineapple plants with temple music playing on the loudspeakers of the coconut trees. Tomorrow we take a $2 public boatride for 2 hours to the pink Amritapuri Ashram we are staying at. A few more days in India….
Thank you for sharing – sounds great!
Learning about India in one of my politics classes.